In most of my coaching sessions, this question pops up for the client "who am I?" who this person really is. Sometimes, there are artistic talents long forsaken, and the client realizes that she is not only the process and procedures guy, but also an artist. Sometimes, she does not know who she really is. Sometimes her original features are smeared by the surroundings, by the energy in the house that has been absorbed, by the instructions recited for too long, by the models that exist around in a very limited space.
Other times, we lose our characteristics, our realness through fear. Fear of grabbing life offerings, shying away from them as if we have not seen them, scared lest we stretch our hands, and we do not find our names written on the label! Other times, it is our laziness to move out of bed, to throw away our inertia, so we cling to a status quo that we do not like. We cuddle in a comfort zone that we have gotten used to for so long, long after it has become so uncomfortable!
Like now, as I am sitting on my favorite place in the couch I realize that the cushion supporting my back is not comfy at all...and only as I write this, I move my hands to adjust it. Simple it is sometimes, more difficult at others.. but we just keep reclining on a mal-adjusted cushion for too long.
Other times, it is our lack of ..what can I call it? is it "guts?.. mojo..spirit may be.. When we take short cuts, while we know that the bumpy road is the one we need to follow, and yet, easier... we choose the short cut. A short cut like that turns out to be like the one in Red Riding hood, where we meet the fox or the wolf or in best cases we get lost. Sometimes, we take the good life, the pleasure approach to happiness. When we know we should get out of bed, but we don't. When we need to work harder, but we procrastinate. When we promise to quit smoking but we wait. When we pretend that exam deadlines are not that soon.. and that the presentation we need to prepare is not next week..
It is like when we have those symptoms; a headache or a muscle pain or a re-current stomach-ache, but instead of going to a physician, it is easier to take the short cut and swallow some analgesics. We do this all the time. We justify saying there is nothing.. but in reality we are either afraid that there might be something, or we are too lazy to get up and check.
I guess what I am saying is that to maintain who we truly are needs a lot of discovery, heaps of bravery.. active actions... collecting energy..standing up to the world. .and sometimes standing up to ourselves..
But it is worth it :)
Other times, we lose our characteristics, our realness through fear. Fear of grabbing life offerings, shying away from them as if we have not seen them, scared lest we stretch our hands, and we do not find our names written on the label! Other times, it is our laziness to move out of bed, to throw away our inertia, so we cling to a status quo that we do not like. We cuddle in a comfort zone that we have gotten used to for so long, long after it has become so uncomfortable!
Like now, as I am sitting on my favorite place in the couch I realize that the cushion supporting my back is not comfy at all...and only as I write this, I move my hands to adjust it. Simple it is sometimes, more difficult at others.. but we just keep reclining on a mal-adjusted cushion for too long.
Other times, it is our lack of ..what can I call it? is it "guts?.. mojo..spirit may be.. When we take short cuts, while we know that the bumpy road is the one we need to follow, and yet, easier... we choose the short cut. A short cut like that turns out to be like the one in Red Riding hood, where we meet the fox or the wolf or in best cases we get lost. Sometimes, we take the good life, the pleasure approach to happiness. When we know we should get out of bed, but we don't. When we need to work harder, but we procrastinate. When we promise to quit smoking but we wait. When we pretend that exam deadlines are not that soon.. and that the presentation we need to prepare is not next week..
It is like when we have those symptoms; a headache or a muscle pain or a re-current stomach-ache, but instead of going to a physician, it is easier to take the short cut and swallow some analgesics. We do this all the time. We justify saying there is nothing.. but in reality we are either afraid that there might be something, or we are too lazy to get up and check.
I guess what I am saying is that to maintain who we truly are needs a lot of discovery, heaps of bravery.. active actions... collecting energy..standing up to the world. .and sometimes standing up to ourselves..
But it is worth it :)
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