I am approaching life these days - finally- as I am, as a coach in addition to many other things. As a coach, we sort of know where the essence is, the essence from which all things spring...not that we know the essence itself or we know everything, God forbid, it is just that we have learnt and been trained and applied on ourselves and with others those secrets. One of them is the title above "deepen the learning and forward the action". For action without meaning becomes consequently, in most cases, meaningless and learning without action becomes.....what is the word?.. it sucks.
I have been thinking lately about the power of intention, the ideas so soundly backed up in things like "The Secret". I am not against them. Never was. On the contrary, I am a true beleiver that everything starts inside first, everything is created internally inside us, and this in itself is a catapult for their existence.
Yet, take me for example. I have been intending to do so many good things in the last year. I started working on some, then stopped, then back again then a short break, followed by a longer one.. then the pattern continues and becomes a series of breaks that vary in duration, and bursts or short periods of activity. In the end, I find myself with my intentions and my grandiose plans. But when they stay inside for so long without materialization, without oxygen; they sort of become stagnant and start to rot. They say there is no failure, only feedback (in NLP) and in coaching terms we say "fail often" and we actually do celebrate failure (with a Ta Da!) but what about stagnancy, what kind of feedback is that? I guess failure too, but it feels like a less positive failure because the learning in a way remains the same. There is no new ways to unlearn, there is no new feedback coming in. There seems to be only one damn feedback " You are lazy!"
So, intention powerful as it is, is not enough. I have to pull it out, some time after fermenting inside so that it comes out to the real world.
I keep saying to my kids " use it or loose it" I talk about their brains and their bodies, their talents and the potential I see in them, and I have been quoting myself with this one this week. So, my point is, that at a certain moment you just need to shut up, and move. Go for it, and do some action, in the right direction of course, but it should not be so difficult to miss the right turn when you have been studying the map for so long..
This weekend was not like the last blog of "welcome weekends" which turned about to be a maigre attempt to bring quality life and energy into my weekends. It was an attempt to be respected, all attempts are, but this weekend I no longer attempted, I woke up at 7 well 7:30 and I moved right into the direction of my intention. Without pressure, for you never know the future, and pressure seems ridiculous if you think that for example the world would end, or you personally would end in an unknowm moment. So, no pressure, just walk there toward your direction.
I started the lessons for my son, I exercised, I worked on my career plans, I studied for my masters degree, I enjoyed breakfast in my sunny garden with the family, I visited my dad, I tidied the house (partially to be honest). To be totally honest, they were all small steps, but....all towards my intention... no pressure attached, no deliverables smiling threateningly at me from afar.. only me walking with loved ones towards my intention..
and yes, when I use my brain, it wakes up. When I appreciate my body and give it some mild healthy exercise, it becomes more energetic. Laziness brings a slower rhythm, activity brings more to life...not only more actions, but also more intentions...and a feeling that yes, I am living MY life.
I have been thinking lately about the power of intention, the ideas so soundly backed up in things like "The Secret". I am not against them. Never was. On the contrary, I am a true beleiver that everything starts inside first, everything is created internally inside us, and this in itself is a catapult for their existence.
Yet, take me for example. I have been intending to do so many good things in the last year. I started working on some, then stopped, then back again then a short break, followed by a longer one.. then the pattern continues and becomes a series of breaks that vary in duration, and bursts or short periods of activity. In the end, I find myself with my intentions and my grandiose plans. But when they stay inside for so long without materialization, without oxygen; they sort of become stagnant and start to rot. They say there is no failure, only feedback (in NLP) and in coaching terms we say "fail often" and we actually do celebrate failure (with a Ta Da!) but what about stagnancy, what kind of feedback is that? I guess failure too, but it feels like a less positive failure because the learning in a way remains the same. There is no new ways to unlearn, there is no new feedback coming in. There seems to be only one damn feedback " You are lazy!"
So, intention powerful as it is, is not enough. I have to pull it out, some time after fermenting inside so that it comes out to the real world.
I keep saying to my kids " use it or loose it" I talk about their brains and their bodies, their talents and the potential I see in them, and I have been quoting myself with this one this week. So, my point is, that at a certain moment you just need to shut up, and move. Go for it, and do some action, in the right direction of course, but it should not be so difficult to miss the right turn when you have been studying the map for so long..
This weekend was not like the last blog of "welcome weekends" which turned about to be a maigre attempt to bring quality life and energy into my weekends. It was an attempt to be respected, all attempts are, but this weekend I no longer attempted, I woke up at 7 well 7:30 and I moved right into the direction of my intention. Without pressure, for you never know the future, and pressure seems ridiculous if you think that for example the world would end, or you personally would end in an unknowm moment. So, no pressure, just walk there toward your direction.
I started the lessons for my son, I exercised, I worked on my career plans, I studied for my masters degree, I enjoyed breakfast in my sunny garden with the family, I visited my dad, I tidied the house (partially to be honest). To be totally honest, they were all small steps, but....all towards my intention... no pressure attached, no deliverables smiling threateningly at me from afar.. only me walking with loved ones towards my intention..
and yes, when I use my brain, it wakes up. When I appreciate my body and give it some mild healthy exercise, it becomes more energetic. Laziness brings a slower rhythm, activity brings more to life...not only more actions, but also more intentions...and a feeling that yes, I am living MY life.
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